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In The Daniel Prayer, bestselling author Anne Graham Lotz unpacks the ancient prayer of Daniel, a prayer that moved heaven and changed a nation, to help you unlock a powerful pattern for your prayers today.
Sarasota Academy International Representative Spotlight
Dr. Roy H. Cantrell, II (Howie) of Gallatin, TN is a Certified Pastoral Member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling and has been an International Representative since2015.
Currently, Dr. Cantrell is the Director/President of Gateway Institute, a Certified Academic Institution College of the N.C.C.A. Also, through the N.C.C.A. Dr. Cantrell is a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor-Advanced Certified.
Many years ago, at the early age of 13, I was asked to get involved in counseling. You see my father, Dr. Roy H. Cantrell, I, was a youth camp director in Mississippi and asked me if I would like to be a C.I.T. “Counselor in Training.” My answer was yes! I did not know at the time how this would affect me later in life and in my career as a pastor, counselor, teacher, and trainer; as well as, a mentor.
I learned about the Arno’s program through my father and with much encouragement enrolled through my local church with the Institute of Counselor Development.The reason it took a lot of encouragement was that I was working on a Masters Degree in Theology at the time. It was definitely a challenge!
As I studied counseling and the art of counseling, I became a master illustrator with word pictures. I thought this was something that everyone could do, but soon found out it was a gift. It was later in reading a book by Mark Batterson, titled “The Circle Maker,” that I discovered talking in circles (thought by some to be a bad thing) was actually the way that Jesus taught, and His ability to paint word pictures was my inspiration. Pretty good role model despite popular opinion, don’t you think?
I’ll give one of these illustrations:
I keep a large silver coin in my pocket and when presented for inspection to the person they are instructed that “Heads” is mercy and “Tails” is Justice. I then ask these two questions.
1. If you were standing in front of a judge and were about to be sentenced to 10 years in prison, would you choose Mercy or Justice? They almost always choose Mercy.
2. If you were standing in that same court room watching the person who hurt your family member about to be sentenced to 10 years in prison, would you choose Mercy or Justice? They almost always choose Justice.
I then lay the coin on the table and ask them to pick up Mercy without picking up Justice. They look at me puzzled and usually say, “I can’t.” The explanation then becomes one of God being the only one who truly is the righteous judge.
Romans 9:15 “I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy.”
Exodus 34:7a“Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and
transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty;”
This is usually a defining moment for the person with whom the illustration has been shared. Getting a person to think outside of their normal thought process is a key to helping get them unstuck.
Many years ago God blessed me with a definition for counseling. It is simply…
“A conversation with a goal.”
The goal in our conversation must always be to help our clients to get “unstuck.”
In many conversations with my father we have compared notes on subjects of all kinds, but one stands out above all the rest, it is this… neither of us have ever had a client, or clients, that didn’t have a spiritual issue at the root of their problem, or problems.
If we can’t get them to see how critical it is to get unstuck, or more importantly to get free, then as counselors, we have done them a huge dis-service. It is impossible to do either of these two things: (1) Get them unstuck or, (2) Free, without the Holy Spirit’s presence in the counseling office.
I thank God on a regular basis for the vision that He gave the Arno’s to help people through Christian Counseling; in particular Creation Therapy. I don’t know how pastors counsel their members and people in their community with any success without the God given wisdom of this program.
I do however want to say… God is the door opener! It’s our job to walk through.One of the many things that I have had the privilege to do as a counselor is to work with the courts as an instructor in a domestic violence class in the county where I live. I use my training in Temperament Theory/Therapy to explain to the people who are there how to understand themselves, as well as, understand why they are doing what they are doing. I love to watch the light bulbs come on as they, one by one, get it. I wish I could say they all get it, but they don’t.
I do this on a volunteer basis and offer each and every person in the room a free session with me, if they will just call. Some do, some don’t. My thoughts are simple on this matter; if you are going to change the game, you have to “get in the game”!
Along with all the other things we do in our community, my wife of 34 years, Becky Williamson Cantrell, of which I could have never done any of what I have accomplished, and I have gone on to launch City Gate Church in Gallatin, Tennessee. We have also launched Gateway Institute where we currently have 17 students in our Counseling and Theology programs in three different states. By the way, we could not have launched Gateway Institute so successfully without the help of April Mooneyhan and Kathy Verblaauw.
I have decided to be a life long learner and by the help and grace of God, along with the help of the Arno’s and Baran’s, I will be a game changer to all God puts in my path.
Matthew 13:45-46 (NIV) tells us:“Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.”
God sees each of us as a pearl of great value. He paid dearly for us with His Son, Jesus! We are more valuable and precious to Him than we can ever imagine!
As counselors, people come to you hurting and broken; they tend to feel that they have no value, that they are invisible, hidden, overlooked, and that nobody cares.
Can you, as a counselor, see them as a pearl of great value, as God does?
Question: “Why is a pearl so valuable?”
The answer is: “In order to have a pearl of great value, the pearl must go through a tremendous amount of irritation; and during the process, it becomes refined and beautiful.”
Some pearls have more irritations than others, just as some people have more irritations than others.
The people that come to you are going through irritations—emotionally, physically and/or spiritually.
Many times when your counselees are going through their hurts, pains and suffering, they tend to feel that there is no hope.
You, as a temperament counselor, have a calling on your life—to help God’s hurting people.
You are there to give them HOPE – Jesus!
God wants you to see each person that comes to you as a “pearl of great value.”
With the APS profile God has given us insight into how He created us with our strengths, weaknesses and needs—an inside look at His pearls of great value.
Since you too, have gone through a refining process with your hurts and suffering and pain, you can use what you have gone through to help and encourage your counselees.
We are going to look at the Melancholy in Inclusion to see what may be irritating and causing them pain and stress in this area:
1. Interacting with people.
Melancholies in Inclusion need a minimal amount of interaction with people because they are loners and taskoriented, not relationship oriented. They do not feel comfortable being around people and tend to be guarded when theyare.
Physically, because they are loners, being pushed or forced into socializing for long periods of timemay cause them to suffer migraines, headaches,ulcers, andother physical problems.
Emotionally, interacting with people too much will cause them to becomeangry, resentful, withdrawn and moody.
Spiritually, if forced to interact with people for long periods of time, theymay become so stressed that they will pull away from God—they do not want to interact with anyone, including God.
They need to learn to stay involved with their relationships and learn to maintain balance between being alone and socializing. They also need tolearn that during times of physical and emotional stress they need to stay close to the Lord.
SeeI John 1:7: (KJV) “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.” See also Galatians 6:2.
2. Striving for perfection.
Melancholies in Inclusion tend to have low self-esteem, and they tend to expect perfection from themselves and others. They tend to feel that if they can become perfect enough, they will then have value; however, theywill never be able tomeasure up to their own standard of perfection.
Because of the high standards they set for themselves and others, they can becomeangry, frustrated and stressed. This is because theytend to have a difficult time completing their goalsas they will keep reworking a project until they “dig” themselves into a“pit” and can’t complete the project.
Physically, when the stress becomes too much for them, they may tend to neglect their physical body by not eating properly and exercising.
Emotionally, when they are unable to deal with everyday life, they willavoid beingwith people because of their fear of criticism about their imperfections.
Spiritually, they will tend to feel that they are not good enough for God,so they will avoid going to church, reading the Holy Scriptures and socializingwith Christians.
They need to learn to give themselves and others the right to be imperfect; otherwise, they will never believe that they are good enough for God. Theyneed to remember that only God is perfect and we are all “works in progress.”
See Hebrews 13:20, 21: (KJV) “Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, throughthe blood of the everlasting covenant, make you perfect in every goodwork to do his will, working in you that which is well-pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” See also I John 2:5 and I John 4:12.3.
3. Inability to shut off their mind.
Melancholies in Inclusion tend to replay over and over again in their mind negative incidents that have occurred in their life. They tend to actually relivepast incidents as if they just happened! This will keep them from forgiving and forgetting.
Melancholies in Inclusion also tend to perceive rejection where none exists;this is because of their low self-esteem.
Physically, because of their inability to shut off their mind,forgive and forget,they will tend to become withdrawn and pull farther away fromfamily and friends. They will tend to not be able to sleep as their mind keeps reviewing the past hurts, and they will lack the energy to do anything butthink. They may even neglect their personal hygiene.
Emotionally, they can become incapable of communicating with others as they are so engrossed in reliving incidents from the past. This may evencause them toshut down emotionally.
Spiritually, if they cannot shut off their mind, they will have no time for prayer, attending church or Bible studies.
They need to learn to stop focusing on the negative, forgive and move forward,and be more trusting in God. They need to bind their mind to Him so that they will be thinking His thoughts—not theirs.
See Philippians 4:8: (KJV) “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report, if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” See also Isaiah 26:3and Isaiah 43:18.
4. Fear regarding finances.
This will cause them stress because they tend to live in the fear of not beingable to support their family and pay the bills.
Physically, they can spend sleeplessnights worrying and stressing about how they can pay their bills. They will either tend to eat little or bingeeat.They may even take on an additional job or two to help pay bills.
Emotionally, they can also become angry and irritated because they thinktheir family is spending too much money on things they do not need. If they confront the family about their spending, this willtend to causeconflictand additional stress.
Spiritually, their stress can cause them to be so preoccupied with financesthat they do not think they have the time to spend with the Lord.
They need to learn to face their fears and work out a budget. Many times their fears aredwelling on the “what if’s.”
They need to learn to look to God and put their trust in Him. He will guidethem and give them peace regarding their finances.
See Isaiah 41:10: (KJV) “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee;yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” See alsoPsalm 34:8 and Matthew 6:28-30.
PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Melancholy in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.
In the next issue we will look at the Pearl of Great Value—Phlegmatic in Inclusion.