Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World By: Max Lucado
When it comes to anxiety, depression, and stress-related illnesses, America is the frontrunner. Thankfully, there’s a practical prescription for dealing with these issues. Anxious for Nothing, the most recent book from New York Times bestselling author, Max Lucado, provides a roadmap for battling with and healing from anxiety.
Does the uncertainty and chaos of life keep you up at night?
Is irrational worry your constant companion?
Could you use some calm?
If the answer is yes, you are not alone. According to one research program, anxiety-related issues are the number one mental health problem among women and are second only to alcohol and drug abuse among men. Stress-related ailments cost the nation $300 billion every year in medical bills and lost productivity. And use of sedative drugs like Xanax and Valium have skyrocketed in the last 15 years. Even students are feeling it. One psychologist reports that the average high school kid today has the same level of anxiety as the average psychiatric patient in the early 1950s. Chances are, you or someone you know seriously struggles with anxiety.
Max writes, “The news about our anxiety is enough to make us anxious.” He knows what it feels like to be overcome by the worries and fear of life, which is why he is dedicated to helping millions of readers take back control of their minds and, as a result, their lives.
Anxious for Nothing invites readers to delve into Philippians 4:6-7. After all, it is the most highlighted passage of any book on the planet, according to Amazon:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
In the characteristic tone of his previous books like You’ll Get Through This and Fearless, Max guides readers through this Scripture passage and explains the key concepts of celebration, asking for help, leaving our concerns, and meditating.
Stop letting anxiety rule the day. Join Max on the journey to true freedom and experience more joy, clarity, physical renewal, and contentment by the power of the Holy Spirit. Anxiety comes with life. But it doesn’t have to dominate your life.
Rev. Dr. Pearl Addo-Teye is a Certified Member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling (S.A.C.C.) and has been an International Representative (IR) since January 15, 2015. She is also a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor-Advanced Certified with the National Christian Counselors Association (N.C.C.A.) since June, 2014.
Rev. Dr. Pearl Addo-Teye shares: “My life has been changed tremendously by the study and the use of Creation Therapy/temperament. It has helped me to be a better person and counselor. Using the Creation Therapy knowledge, the temperament tool and with the help of the Holy Spirit in my counseling, has helped my clients, and I have seen God transforming, situations and lives that only He can do. My clients are wowed by how I am able to tell them about their Strengths, Weaknesses and their Needs.” Some of them tell me: “Dr. Pearl, you are talking like you live in my house.” My response to them is: “God knows you, and has given us the Creation Therapy/ temperament tool to help us help you to know who you are, to help you be yourself, to become whole and healthy from within.”
I am very passionate about Creation Therapy/temperament, I am convinced that every person, as soon as they reach the age of accountability, should be taught Creation Therapy/temperament. Why? Because whatever we do in this life, ministry, calling, career etc., is with people, for people, through people and by people. We will continue and always interact with people until we take our last breath. That said, beside God, people are the next most important element in our life and we need to learn how to live with ourselves, the people in our life and those who will come into our life on any level. Creation Therapy/temperament is the only training, knowledge and tool that helps you to be able to relate with God and people effectively, peacefully and fruitfully.
Having this passion and conviction about Creation Therapy/temperament, I started a non-profit organization called Mind Renewal International (M.R.I) with the goal of raising funds to subsidize the training of the Creation Therapy Course in particular and the N.C.C.A counseling Training in general in the USA and Africa. The second goal of M.R.I is to partner with other institutions, colleges, Bible schools and organizations to incorporate the Creation Therapy course in their curriculum and to promote the Creation Therapy course in as many African Countries as possible.
Since 2015, MRI has taken 3 students in the USA and 11 students in Ghana West Africa through the Creation Therapy course. The 11 students from Ghana are made up of four different Churches. These Churches have contacted M.R.I at the African office and want to partner with us to make the Creation Therapy course part of their leadership training and bible school. All I said was “Glory to God for his faithfulness.” All we have to do is to obey the call of God for what He has placed on our heart and He will make a way to fulfill it.
On March 15th, I flew to Ghana, West Africa to have an official Graduation Ceremony for the 11 students graduating from the Creation Therapy course. A week before the graduation, I had a seminar with the 11 graduating students. Beside the other seminar topics the main topic was for the students to give their testimonies about the Creation Therapy course and to invite as many people as possible to the graduation ceremony; this was to serve as a way to advertise the course to others. I missed the greatest opportunity to record the testimonies of these students on how the Creation Therapy course has change their lives. The 11 students were made up of 2 reverend ministers, 1 medical doctor, 1 university lecturer and 7 Church elders. All these students had powerful testimonies, but the common theme that I noticed about what all of them had to say was how their lives have been changed, and how they are using the experience to help others, and the need for every Pastor or Church leader to take the Creation Therapy course.
I want to paraphrase the testimony of the Medical Doctor and the university lecturer. According to the Medical doctor, Creation Therapy has helped him to understand his patients better. He said he realized that not all patients need medication, some of them just need a listening ear and a caring heart, but he never thought about that until he took the Creation Therapy course. He also said, he takes the time to listen to his patients, and by doing that, he gets the opportunity to tell them the truth of the Word of God and the need for them to forgive, get rid of bitterness and trust in God. He said he also has more patience for his patients and approaches them in the way that they will open up to him. He has signed up to take the course to the PhD level.
The university lecturer was the first person to sign up to continue to the PhD level. He said as a lecturer, he no longer has the mindset of putting all his student in the same category and treating them the same, he realized that his students are unique. He now makes extra time for the students who are not so quick to understand what he is teaching. He also shared that he is on the board of an entertainment company and handles the interview process for hiring. He said using the knowledge of the Creation Therapy/temperament, has given him the opportunity to advise the owner of the company to put employees in areas that they will perform better. He said before taken the Creation Therapy/temperament course, he never paid attention to how a person’s temperament needs to be considered in the hiring process.
On Saturday March 25th 2017, we had about 120 people attend the Graduation Ceremony with 9 pastors in attendance. Since the graduation, a medical college, Churches and organizations have reached out to partner with M.R.I. I will be traveling back to Ghana to meet with our partners, draft contracts and begin mass advertising for the Creation Therapy course. I am trusting God for the wisdom to be able to know how to handle the partnership and to take the Creation Therapy/temperament as far as He wants to take it through M.R.I. I know His hand is on this ministry, and He will provide the resources that are needed. I am trusting Him to increase the effectiveness of the organization to reach as many people as possible with the Creation Therapy course.
I want to take this opportunity to thank God for the life of Dr. Richard and Phyllis Arno for their obedience to the Lord and their hard work to bringing this great tool to Gods people. I also want to thank all the amazing staff at Sarasota Academy. They are very helpful and knowledgeable with all my International Representative needs for the Creation Therapy course. God bless you all and I appreciate your hard work and dedication.
Finally, to my fellow IR’s, remember God never promised that what we do will be easy, because Creation Therapy is a powerful tool and we have this awesome opportunity to use this tool to liberate humanity, the enemy of our soul will fight us. God has promised He will be with us every step of the way and will bring us to an expected end and the victory is ours if we do not quit. Be strong in the power of the Lord for it will not be by your power or might, but by the Spirit of the Lord; and faithful is He who has promised and He will do. I believe we all know our God, right? He said we will be strong and do our labor in Him, it is never in vain.
May you all stay blessed and keep up the good work!
A careless word may kindle strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life.
A bitter word may hate instill;
A brutal word may smite and kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way;
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress;
A loving word may heal and bless. Author Unknown
A word fitly spoken is like Apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverbs 25:11
But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matthew 12:36-37
COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY WITH THE SUPINE IN AFFECTION
Communication is the key to all relationships. When we do not communicate properly, the results can be devastating. Miscommunicating can cause anger, wars, murders, family splits, divorces, etc.
The Free Dictionary on the Internet describes the word “communication” to mean: “a. the art and technology of using words effectively to impact information or ideas. This would be verbal communication.”
Archie Bunker, the rather blunt father in the old TV series, “All in the Family,” made this statement:
THE REASON YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ME, EDITH, IS BECAUSE I AM TALKIN’ TO YOU IN ENGLISH AND YOU’RE LISTENIN’ TO ME IN “DINGBAT!”
I am sure that at one time or another, we have probably all felt like saying that to someone who does not understand what we are trying to communicate to them.
However, when counseling, you cannot say what Archie Bunker said, but what you can do is learn to understand your counselee’s God-given temperament.
As a temperament counselor, you know that we are not all “wired” the same. Each temperament acts, responds and perceives things differently.
When you are counseling a temperament different than yours, you need to learn to set your temperament tendencies aside and counsel this person according to their temperament.
In this issue we are going to look at the Supine in Affection to see how to communicate with them according to their temperament.
When you communicate with them:
1. You should not say:
You expect your deep relationships to read your mind and know that you want love and affection.
You should probably say:
You tend to expect your deep relationships to know that you want love and affection.
2. You should not say:
You have feelings of worthlessness and feel unlovable at times. You constantly look for reasons why your deep relationships should not love you. You tend to deal with these feelings of rejection by crying.
You should probably say:
You tend to have feelings of being worthless and unloved. You may even cry as a way to deal with these feelings; crying acts as a safety valve. This is because you cannot understand how anyone could love you, so you need to always remember that God created you and loves you—all the time!
3. You should not say:
You internalize your anger and mask it as “hurt feelings.”
You should probably say:
You tend to say your “feelings are hurt”; however, what you are actually saying is “I am angry.” This is internalized anger. Learning to say “I am angry because…” will help you to deal with your anger so you can get rid of it. In so doing, you will not lose your gentle spirit.
4. You should not say:
You have a fear of rejection, and you are easily offended and insulted, especially when your deep relationships do not initiate love and affection.
You should probably say:
You tend to have a fear of rejection and may even perceive rejection where there is none. You need to look to the Lord first for your love and affection, and then you will be less likely to perceive rejection from your deep relationships.
5. You should not say:
You serve your deep relationships but you need a great deal of recognition for what you do; if you do not receive recognition, you will feel used and become angry.
You should probably say:
You tend to have a gentle spirit and a servant’s heart, and you love to serve your deep relationships. You tend to feel unappreciated and may become angry if they do not recognize and thank you for what you do for them.
When counseling a Supine in Affection, you need to be aware of the following regarding this temperament:
You want to approach the Supine in Affection in a friendly manner with a professional attitude.
The Supine in Affection has a perceived fear of rejection, and they will come in fearing that you will learn that they are not valuable and that you may not want to work with them.
As you can see, communicating according to a person’s unique temperament is invaluable. The Supine in Affection will learn that:
People cannot read their mind, so they need to initiate love and affection.
They should not pull away in anger when they feel rejected. Their anger is actually internalized and masked as “hurt feelings.” This is because they feel that saying “My feelings are hurt” is less offensive.
They need to look to Jesus for their love and affection so that they do not make ungodly demands on their deep relationships.
They need to express their needs for love and affection in order to maintain their gentle spirit.
They need to rest in God’s love and know that their value is in Him.
It is important to know that each temperament has strengths and weaknesses. We need to remember that God created the Supine in Affection just as He did the other temperaments in order to complete the Body of Christ.
God created the Supine in Affection with a gentle spirit and a servant’s heart.
The Supine in Affection needs to learn to look to God first for love and affection so that they do not make ungodly demands on their deep relationships.
The Supine in Affection needs to know that it is all right to cry; this is a safety valve for them to help deal with their stress. Psalms 56:8 says, “Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?”
PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Supine in Affection, you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.