Temperament Corner

     THE POWER OF WORDS

 

              A careless word may kindle strife;

              A cruel word may wreck a life.

             A bitter word may hate instill;

             A brutal word may smite and kill.

             A gracious word may smooth the way;

             A joyous word may light the day.

             A timely word may lessen stress;

             A loving word may heal and bless.

                                                    Author Unknown

 

                                   A word fitly spoken is like

                                            Apples of gold

                               in pictures of silver.

                                                       Proverb 25:11

 

               But I say unto you, that every idle word that

               men shall speak, they shall give account thereof

               in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou 

               shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be 

               condemned.

                                                    Matthew 12:36-37

 

COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY WITH THE SANGUINE IN INCLUSION

 

Temperament Corner by Phyllis ArnoCommunication is the key to all relationships.  When we do not communicate properly, the results can be devastating.  Miscommunicating can cause anger, wars, murders, family splits, divorces, etc.

The Free Dictionary on the Internet describes the word communication to mean: “a. the art and technology of using words effectively to impact information or ideas. This would be verbal communication.”

Archie Bunker, the rather blunt father in the old TV series, “All in the Family,” made this statement:

THE REASON YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ME, EDITH, IS BECAUSE I AM TALKIN’ TO YOU IN ENGLISH AND YOU’RE LISTENIN’ TO ME IN “DINGBAT!”

I am sure that at one time or another, we have probably all felt like saying that to someone who does not understand what we are trying to communicate to them.

However, when counseling, you cannot say what Archie Bunker said, but what you can do is learn to understand your counselee’s God-given temperament.

As a temperament counselor you know that we are not all “wired” the same. Each temperament acts, responds and perceives things differently.

When you are counseling a temperament different than yours, you need to learn to set your temperament tendencies aside and counsel this person according to their temperament.

In this issue we are going to look at the Sanguine in Inclusion to see how to communicate with them according to their temperament.

When you communicate with them:

  1. You should not say:

You like to socialize all the time, and you would rather sit around and talk than get your work done.

You should probably say:

You tend to enjoy being around people because they energize you, but you need to learn to balance your time between socializing and working.

  1. You should not say:

You have a hot temper and will fly off the handle when someone makes you angry.

You should probably say:

You tend to have outbursts of anger when someone upsets you.  You need to learn to count to 10 before reacting.

  1. You should not say:

You have a high fear of rejection and will adopt severe and destructive behaviors to prevent rejection.

You should probably say:

You tend to go along with the crowd to keep from being rejected, so you need to learn to associate with people of like morals.

  1. You should not say:

You are an impulsive shopper, so you should stay out of the stores because you will buy anything and everything you see.

You should probably say:

You tend to like to shop since shopping gives you an opportunity to be with people and socialize.  You must be careful so that you do not spend money for things you do not need.

  1. You should not say:

You live life at a fast pace. You are talkative and want to be the center of attention.  You have a short attention span and will walk away from someone when you lose interest in what they are saying.

You should probably say:

You tend to be upbeat, optimistic and very inspiring.  You enjoy being with people, and you rarely meet a stranger.  You are like sunshine on a rainy day. You do not like to be drawn into long serious conversations; you tend to prefer to go around the room and talk with everyone.

  1. You should not say:

You tend to impulsively spend your money on things you do not need because you live for the day, as you think yesterday is gone and tomorrow might not ever come.

You should probably say:

You tend to be impulsive and live for the day. You need to learn to maintain balance between living for today and saving for tomorrow.    

When counseling a Sanguine in Inclusion, you need to be aware of the following regarding this temperament:

You need to make them feel welcome because they do have a fear of rejection. They will try to dominate the counseling session because they love to be the center of attention. You must learn to take charge of the session.  Allow them time to talk but not dominate.

You do not want to criticize the Sanguine in Inclusion, since criticizing them will throw them into their swing.  They will pout, become moody, and pull away from you.

Your tone of voice is also important.  They are relationship oriented, so they pay close attention to how you talk to them, and they are also aware of body language.

The Sanguine in Inclusion has a short attention span, so they may not hear what you are explaining to them because they may have gotten bored and they may be thinking about what they are going to do when they leave your office. You need to talk and then allow them to talk to keep them involved in what you are discussing with them.

As you can see, communicating according to a person’s unique temperament is invaluable.  The Sanguine in Inclusion will learn that:

      1. You have shown them that they do not always need to be the center of attention. They need to learn to be considerate of others and what they have to say.  
        1. You have shown them that they do not have to take on the morals of the crowd to be accepted. God loves them, and He will help them find people with good morals. 
            1. They need to learn to respect the people around them and appreciate them for who God created them to be, just as you have shown them respect for who God created the Sanguine in Inclusion to be.

When you teach a Sanguine in Inclusion that God is with them all the time, they can learn to be more respectful to others. They can learn to interact with others and not always have to be the center of attention.

Please remember, God created a Sanguine in Inclusion because they can be such a positive inspiration like sunshine on a cloudy day. Their enthusiasm can be an inspiration for all temperaments.

It is important to know that each temperament has strengths and weaknesses, and we need to always remember that God created the Sanguine in Inclusion to bring sunshine, warmth and happiness into peoples’ lives and we need to encourage them to learn to maintain balance with their relationships and their work habits.

PLEASE NOTE:  These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Sanguine in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.

In the next issue we will look at ways to communicate with a Supine in Inclusion counselee.

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International Representative Spotlight

SACC INTERNATIONAL
REPRESENTATIVE
SPOTLIGHT

 

Dr. Cassandra A. Montgomery
Dr. Cassandra A. Montgomery

Dr. Cassandra A. Montgomery is a Certified Pastoral member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling and an International Representative.  She is also a Certified Temperament Life Coach. She has been involved with the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling since 2002. 

We are a Christ-centered, God glorifying faith ministry with a worldwide vision.  Family Bible Ministries Worldwide, Inc. and Apostle Bishop Eddie A. Montgomery, Ph.D. have been affiliated with National Christian Counselors Association (N.C.C.A.) and Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling (S.A.C.C.) since 1992.

However, I have been a member of N.C.C.A. since the year 2000.  I am a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor – Advanced Certification.  I am also Advanced Certified in ten areas offered through the N.C.C.A. curriculum.  I am an N.C.C.A. Clinical Supervisor, Temperament Instructor, and Executive Vice President of our total ministry.  Our C.A.I. has received numerous awards.  The curriculum of the N.C.C.A. through our C.A.I. has enhanced the total program of the University of Family Bible.  Our counseling program provides the student with the skills and benefits to:  identify individual temperament needs, determine temperament perfections and imperfections, identify what causes relationship conflicts and how to utilize conflict resolution, implement a successful five-step method for counseling, and understand the benefits of the Arno Profile System.  We have been enjoying teaching the Certified Temperament Life Coaching program where we are showing the student how their spiritual gifts can work together with Christian Counseling & Temperament Life Coaching.  In our training, we emphasize the need to take the A.P.S. in our counseling and coaching.

I am making a point to emphasize that everyone register early for the Charlotte, North Carolina NCCA Conference for 2015 because we are going to have some outstanding speakers and the best part about that is they are filled with God’s Spirit.  But guess what!  My husband, Apostle Bishop Eddie A. Montgomery, Ph.D. is one of the speakers as well.  So come on and register now so I will see you there!

Tips for Leaders in the Ministry of Counseling & Coaching

We Believe You Must:

*Be saved and have a vital relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ!

*Be a listener with your spirit to identify the problem!

*Be depended on God and His Word to speak to your spirit!

*Have power to be an overcomer!

*Have peace in the face of any conflict, large or small!

*Have protection for you and your family!

*Have the presence of God’s Spirit gracing you!

*Have prosperity demonstrating God’s anointed favor upon your life!

James 5:14-15 says, “Is anyone among you sick?  Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.  And the prayer of faith will save the sick and the Lord will raise them up.”

Seven Keys to Help You Live in a Constant State of Revival

 

Key 1- Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any unconfessed sin in your life.  Ps. 139:24

Key 2- Seek forgiveness from anyone you’ve offended and forgive those who have hurt you.  Make restitution where you can.

Key 3- Examine your motives in every word and deed.
Keep your heart pure. Matthew 5:8

Key 4- Welcome the guidance of the Holy Spirit.  Rev. 3:15

Key 5- Be in an attitude of praise and thanksgiving to the Lord. Romans 8:28

Key 6- Remember the flesh can’t please God. Romans 8:8

Key 7- By humility and the fear of God is riches, honor, and life. Proverbs 22:4

Doing the Motivation Gifts & Temperament Life Coaching Spirit-Filled Seminar/ Grief and Loss, I have found that grief and loss is one of the most difficult things that we can deal with.

In my training I have learned how the different temperaments deal with grief and loss:

 

  • The Choleric dealing with death and dying may try to control the situation, show little emotion, belittle the situation appear insensitive or calloused, express anger or become task oriented.
  • The Melancholy dealing with death and dying may become depressed, consider suicide, withdrawn try to pinpoint the blame for what is happening or deal with impersonal responsibilities of caring for the person.
  • The Sanguine dealing with death and dying may expect to be the center of attention, think and exhibit destructive behaviors exhibit swing in mood avoid the reality of death and replace the loved one quickly with a positive upbeat relationship that is happy.
  • The Supine dealing with death and dying may feel guilty, slip lower in self-esteem disconnect from those who provided their greatest encouragement and supportive relationship may help only if asked to help, may appear to not care, and develop a new relationship rather quickly.
  • The Phlegmatic dealing with death and dying may do nothing about it show little emotions, pull away or avoid the situation. Make light of it practically and deal with details, but not get close to the dying person.

Temperament affects coaching because with our motivational gifts and knowing our motivational gifts, we would know how to interact with others during death.  As we know their temperament and motivational gifts, we would know if we have to come to them gentle, straight forward, tiptoeing through the tulips, or just plainly saying the Lord is your helper.  Just know we cannot do anything without the help of the Holy Spirit.

Now, by the Spirit of the Lord moving in our life, I want to pray a healing prayer for you:

          Heavenly Father, it’s not by might, it’s not by power, but it’s by Your Holy Spirit that I come to You today with the need of every person reading this article.  In the mighty Name of our Lord Jesus Christ, I thank You for your deliverance from the clutches of the enemy, Satan.   I exercise my authority in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth that you fail in your attempt to interrupt the work of God! 

          God, I ask You to bring Your healing power to bear against every trouble and every obstacle.  I believe that healing virtue is flowing out of the presence of Jesus into the life of every person reading these words.

 

          Lord, I thank You for the anointing that is upon each one’s life, and I pray that they will be so in tune with the Word and Your Spirit that they will boldly take their stand as Your representatives upon this earth.  I pray that they will prosper, have good success, and finish their course with joy.  These things I ask and pray in the mighty Name of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Amen and amen.

One of our greatest enhancements in counseling was quoted on Dr. Arno’s CDs for Basic Christian Counseling program, “Love the people, love the people, love the people.”

With great joy I give special thanks to Drs. Richard and Phyllis Arno for their special contribution to our CAI and International Representatives status. I give special thanks to the N.C.C.A. president, Rev. Steven M. Baran and his lovely wife Erin, some of the familiar staff:  Michael Dan, Dr. Robert Duncan, Jason Ferrill, and Christin Standifird for all of their help and encouragement along with the whole staff.

For more information or assistance, the University of Family Bible Institute, College and Seminary is located at 5300 Edmondson Ave, Baltimore, MD 21229.  Office:  410-455-0678 or 410-455-0221.  Website:  www.familybibleministries.org

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The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children

By: Stormie Omartian

The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children

 

Drawing from the ancient love story of Hosea, a prophet whose life and prophecy map how to fall in love with God, Falling in Love with God will fulfill the desires of all who long for a different–or deeper–relationship with God. This thoroughly Biblical book will help and bless all who long to love God with all their hearts…but just aren’t sure why they don’t, if they could, or how it happens.

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International Representative Spotlight

 

 

Rev. Susan Beth Hans
  Rev. Susan Beth Hans

 

 Rev. Susan Beth Hans is a Certified Pastoral Member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling and an International Representative.  She has been involved with the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling since March 25, 2014.

The Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling has proved to be a tremendous source, and resource, for the Temperament Counseling ministry at Ezra Ministries in Delmont, PA.   One year ago I became an International Representative.  I have been with the N.C.C.A. as a Licensed Pastoral Counselor in the temperaments since 1995 and a Sr. Pastor of two church ministries.  In May of 2012 Ezra Ministries became a Christian Temperament Counseling, Christian Education and Worship Center.  Our focus is to raise up a generation that is strong (in the Lord) and does great exploits for the Kingdom of God and then instructs others (Daniel 11:32b-33a).

When I became an IR, my purpose at the time was to offer the course; “Created in God’s Image” A Course In Human Behavior: A Christian Perspective”, by the Arno’s.  Several of my clients expressed interest in understanding temperaments other than their own.  Members of our fellowship and those who became familiar with temperament through our outreach ministries also expressed interest in discovering their God created temperament as well as understanding  temperament. The Created in God’s Image course was the ideal response for both groups!

On Saturday, January 31, Ezra Ministries Christian Temperament Counseling and Worship Center held our first one day seminar; Created in God’s Image.   Ten very excited people were in attendance. Some already had their temperament profiles but for the others it was their first experience with the APS.  The possibility of doing in seven hours what you would do in six weeks teaching this course was understandably limited, so I decided my approach would be an overview.   I would concentrate on the areas that I felt would give the greatest understanding and still do the course justice.  At the same time, I wanted to whet their appetites for more!  We began by exploring what temperament is with the first few chapters.  This included;  building blocks of the inner man, the theory of temperament and introducing the three areas of Inclusion-Control-Affection, why Temperament is important, and the interpersonal situations and then the five basic temperaments.   We did a brief overview of the historical and scientific background for temperament.   The afternoon was then spent viewing the individual temperaments touching on the blends in the I-C-A which led to much discussion and was very productive.

I’ll share with you a few comments from the feedback surveys each were asked to fill out about how this seminar affected them; “From the facts presented, I can truly see myself the way God sees me and wants me to be…The presentation was awesome and easy to understand.” M.B. “Liked the opportunity to hear from others and participate” C.J. “What I learned today explains a lot in my life!  Very blessed today!” J.L. “I feel this will help me in working with others to have more understanding of other’s temperaments. I would like to pursue further education in the temperament counseling.” L.Y. “Given an overview of the temperaments, I am better able to understand myself, others and interpersonal dynamics.” H.C. “ I have had previous training in the Arno’s “Creation Therapy” study, however, this seminar really clarified the terms and temperaments and gave me clearer understanding….this day was productive, fun and a real blessing!” R.W.    Each attendee gave excellent ratings and said they would definitely recommend this seminar to others.  Four of the attendees came to the ministry center two weeks later and took the exam.  Three are moving on to Creation Therapy, this is thrilling!  Others are making appointments to gain further understanding of their God given temperament.   A date in May has been set for a second Created in God’s Image Seminar.  Moving with the flow of the Spirit!

I am thrilled to be an IR with the SACC!  Discovery of our God created temperament, as you know, is liberating, healing, and connects us so beautifully to our Creator and each other.  We have been afforded such an exciting as well as exceptional tool to aid our brothers and sisters in the discovery of their personal temperament.  This tool also encourages discovery of their own personal ministry to others.  Using the gifts and graces given by the Lord through each temperament, every member of the Body has the opportunity to become their unique part.  In this hour it is ALL HANDS ON DECK.   Now, more than ever, it is time to raise up a generation that knows their God and knows who they are created uniquely to be in His Image.  The need to recognize others and our unique gifting (temperament) and to love one another is a requirement from the Lord (II Cor. 5:16; John 13:34-45).   Remember the time when Paul rejected John Mark at the beginning of their relationship because he didn’t recognize his temperament?  Paul in his quick tempered demanding Choleric temperament, focused on John Mark’s weakness and failure.  What a mess that was for Paul and Barnabas!   But the Lord, knowing John Mark, purposed him to become a great aid and confidant to Paul….beloved, faithful to the Lord, a true gift and fellow workman in the Kingdom.  How remarkable we truly are, created in God’s Image!

God bless you all so good!

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THE POWER OF WORDS

A careless word may kindle strife;Temperament Corner by Phyllis Arno
A cruel word may wreck a life.
A bitter word may hate instill;
A brutal word may smite and kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way;
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress;
A loving word may heal and bless.
Author Unknown

A word fitly spoken is like Apples of gold
 in pictures of silver. Proverb 25:11

But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matthew 12:36-37

COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY WITH THE PHLEGMATIC IN INCLUSION

Communication is the key to all relationships. When we do not communicate properly, the results can be devastating. Miscommunicating can cause anger, wars, murders, family splits, divorces, etc.

The Free Dictionary on the Internet describes the word communication to mean: “a. the art and technology of using words effectively to impact information or ideas. This would be verbal communication.”

Archie Bunker, the rather blunt father in the old TV series, “All in the Family,” made this statement:

THE REASON YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ME, EDITH, IS BECAUSE I AM TALKIN’ TO YOU IN ENGLISH AND YOU’RE LISTENIN’ TO ME IN “DINGBAT!”

I am sure that at one time or another, we have probably all felt like saying that to someone who does not understand what we are trying to communicate to them.

However, when counseling, you cannot say what Archie Bunker said, but what you can do is learn to understand your counselee’s God-given temperament. As a temperament counselor, you know that we are not all “wired” the same. Each temperament acts, responds, and perceives things differently.

When you are counseling a temperament different than yours, you need to learn to set your temperament tendencies aside and counsel this person according to their temperament.

In this issue we are going to look at the PHLEGMATIC in Inclusion to see how to communicate with them according to their temperament.

When you communicate with them:

  1. You should not say:

You are a spectator or observer in life and refuse to get involved.

You should probably say:

You tend to enjoy life from the sidelines because you do not want to get too involved and use up your energy.

  1. You should not say:

You are a “couch potato”; you want to sit around and do nothing rather than go out and socialize with family and friends—unless you just can’t get out of going.

 You should probably say:

You tend to have low energy and do not like to get too involved socially because you do not want to drain your energy.

  1. You should not say:

You have a cruel sense of humor that irritates everyone because it is hurtful.

You should probably say:

You tend to make humorous remarks that can be witty, charming, humorous, dry and sometimes offensive to those around you.

  1. You should not say:

You will use your humor in a cruel way to keep people from pushing or forcing you to socialize.

You should probably say:

You tend to use your humor as a way of keeping people from pushing you into socializing.

  1. You should not say:

You are extremely stubborn, tough-minded and selfish, and you won’t budge when someone wants you to change your plans.

You should probably say:

You tend to be stubborn and once you make up your mind, you usually won’t change it. This is because you have a good mind for envisioning a project, and you have done your best and do not have the energy to change perfectly good plans.

  1. You should not say:

You tend to want peace at all costs, so you will take the path of least resistance and negotiate peace at the expense of others.

You should probably say:

You tend to be a good peacemaker and negotiator, and others will come to you for your input. You must remember to negotiate peace for all concerned.

  1. You should not say:

You are a perfectionist and expect people to “carry their end of the log,” so you tend to get angry and upset when they do not and you have to do their work.

You should probably say:

You sometimes tend to expect more of people than what they can do, and you tend to become upset with them. You need to remember that only Jesus is perfect—the rest of us are works in progress.

When counseling the Phlegmatic in Inclusion, you need to be aware of the following regarding this temperament:

Your approach to the Phlegmatic in Inclusion can be moderately friendly and professional. They tend to respond to the intellect.

When counseling the Phlegmatic in Inclusion, you need to remember that they do not express what they are thinking. You may even wonder at times if they are listening to you; however, they are usually taking in everything you are saying.

Family and friends may try to push the Phlegmatic in Inclusion to socialize, and this will cause them stress. They are task-oriented, and when they have to spend time with people after they have tasked (worked) all day, it is too much for them. This is because they have low energy and have already used up their energy at work or school, etc.

When the Phlegmatic in Inclusion comes home from work or school, they will collapse and want to do nothing. This is because they need this time to triage. Triaging for the Phlegmatic in Inclusion is a must; otherwise, they will not have the energy to accomplish what they need to do.

When the Phlegmatic in Inclusion cannot get their needed down time to rest and relax, they tend to become irritable and angry.

When counseling the Phlegmatic in Inclusion, you need to relate to them that you are working toward helping them have a more peaceful, balanced environment. You can do this by teaching them to learn to maintain balance in their life. They need to learn to work, rest, exercise, and eat properly.

If the Phlegmatic in Inclusion does not learn to maintain balance, they can tend to be overprotective of their energy and become non-involved in life. This will affect the whole family.

The Phlegmatic in Inclusion tends to be perfectionistic and will tend to criticize those who do not measure up to their expectations. They will do this by using humorous remarks, which can be cutting to the person toward whom the humor is directed.

 Please remember, God created the Phlegmatic in Inclusion with the capacity for work that requires precision and accuracy; they can do tedious tasks that no other temperament can accomplish. They also have the capability to be peacemakers and negotiators, all of which are needed for the Kingdom of God. We need to encourage the Phlegmatic to stay involved and use these gifts for the Kingdom.

PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Phlegmatic in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.

In the next issue we will look at ways to communicate with a Sanguine in Inclusion counselee.

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THE POWER OF WORDS

  • A careless word may kindle strife;
  • A cruel word may wreck a life.
  • A bitter word may hate instill;
  • A brutal word may smite and kill.
  • A gracious word may smooth the way;
  • A joyous word may light the day.
  • A timely word may lessen stress;
  • A loving word may heal and bless.
  • Author Unknown
A word fitly spoken is like Apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverb 25:11
But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matthew 12:36-37

COMMUNICATING  EFFECTIVELY WITH THE MELANCHOLY IN INCLUSION

Temperament Corner by, Dr. Phyllis J. ArnoCommunication is the key to all relationships. When we do not communicate properly, the results can be devastating. Miscommunicating can cause anger, wars, murders, family splits, divorces, etc.

The Free Dictionary on the Internet describes the word communication to mean: “a. the art and technology of using words effectively to impact information or ideas. This would be verbal communication.”

Archie Bunker, the rather blunt father in the old TV series, “All in the Family,” made this statement:

THE REASON YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ME, EDITH, IS BECAUSE I AM TALKIN’ TO YOU IN ENGLISH AND YOU’RE LISTENIN’ TO ME IN “DINGBAT!”

I am sure that at one time or another, we have probably all felt like saying that to someone who does not understand what we are trying to communicate to them.

However, when counseling, you cannot say what Archie Bunker said, but what you can do is learn to understand your counselee’s God-given temperament.

As a temperament counselor you know that we are not all “wired” the same. Each temperament acts, responds and perceives things differently.

When you are counseling a temperament different than yours, you need to learn to set your temperament tendencies aside and counsel this person according to their temperament.

As a counselor, you generate a Clinical APS Report. When you are disseminating the information to the counselee, you need to present it in a manner that will not offend or upset them. You need to present them with their Strengths and Weaknesses in a manner that will not make them feel hopeless.

In this issue we are going to look at the MELANCHOLY in Inclusion to see how to communicate with them according to their temperament.

When you communicate with them:

  1. You should not say:
    You don’t like to be around people and you hate going out to social events, meetings,etc. You would rather be at home.
    You should probably say:
    You tend not to relate well to people, so you prefer small group functions rather than large ones.
  2. You should not say:
    You tend to be very moody and negative.
    You should probably say:
    You tend to sometimes have negative thoughts which can make you feel down and sad.
  3. You should not say:
    You have a fear of economic failure.
    You should probably say:
    You tend to fear that you will not have enough money to live on and to pay your bills.
  4. You should not say:
    You have a fear of rejection because you have a low self-esteem and think that others do not feel you have any value.
    You should probably say:
    You tend to fear that others will reject you because you do not feel that you measure up to them.
  5. You should not say:
    You are easily offended or insulted by what other people say.
    You should probably say:
    You tend to sometimes misunderstand what other people are saying because you may perceive or think that they do not like or accept you.
  6. You should not say:
    You tend to be a perfectionist, and you set too high standards for yourself and others. You tend to become angry if they do not live up to your expectations.
    You should probably say:
    You tend to sometimes expect more of people than what they can do, and you tend to become upset with them. You need to remember that only Jesus is perfect—the rest of us are works in progress.

When counseling a Melancholy in Inclusion, you need to be aware of the following regarding this temperament:

You do not want to approach the Melancholy in Inclusion by being overly friendly. You need to welcome them and be professional.

Love is patient, Love is kind... Love never fails.
Love is patient, Love is kind… Love never fails.

You need to be willing to answer the many questions they may have about your qualifications. Your qualifications are very important to them as they need to know that they can trust you with the information they will share with you.

When counseling a Melancholy in Inclusion you need to, at the end of the session, recap what was discussed. This is because Melancholies in Inclusion tend to think a great deal and you may have said something that triggered a memory, so they did not hear everything you said. When this happens, they can leave your office misunderstanding what you had told them.

Family and friends may try to push the Melancholy in Inclusion to socialize, and this may cause them stress since their temperament cannot handle being with people all the time. This is because they are task-oriented, not relationship-oriented. They can usually do tasks all day long without becoming stressed.

If the Melancholy in Inclusion must be with people and/or work with people all day long, they need to learn to take some short breaks and go out for a walk or sit and read alone. This will lessen their stress. Also, when they come home from work or school, they need some quiet, down time before they interact with the family.

At times Melancholies in Inclusion can have negative thoughts and become moody and depressed. They need to learn to think positive thoughts. Teach them a Scripture that they can pull strength from when they start to think downward thoughts, such as:

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Philippians 4:8

Melancholies in Inclusion tend to have a fear of economic failure, and they may deny it if you word it this way; however, when you give them the following examples, they will understand what it means to have a fear of economic failure:

  • Need to clip coupons
  • Need to purchase items on sale
  • Need to pay cash for something rather than take out a loan
  • Need a certain amount of money in their checking account
  • Need to carry a certain amount of money in their pocket

Melancholies in Inclusion tend to perceive rejection and will search for messages that they are not liked or accepted. The Melancholy in Inclusion will then tend to avoid this person so they will not be rejected.

Also, because of this perceived fear, Melancholies in Inclusion are, at times, easily offended or insulted. They need to learn to search the Scriptures for messages that they are loved and accepted. They need to learn that God loves them, and He will never forsake them. John 3:16 tells us:

Abstract red shapes of hearts“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16

Melancholies in Inclusion tend to be perfectionistic and set standards that are too high for anyone to attain, including themselves. If people do not meet these standards, Melancholies tend to become very critical. They need to remember that God only requires reasonable service and so should they.

Please remember, God created Melancholies in Inclusion with artistic, creative capabilities which are needed for the Kingdom of God. We need to encourage the Melancholy not only to use his gifts but also to share them with others.

PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Melancholy in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.

In the next issue we will look at ways to communicate with a Phlegmatic in Inclusion counselee.

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Falling in Love With God

By: Bob Hostetler

Falling In Love With God  -     By: Bob Hostetler

 

Drawing from the ancient love story of Hosea, a prophet whose life and prophecy map how to fall in love with God, Falling in Love with God will fulfill the desires of all who long for a different–or deeper–relationship with God. This thoroughly Biblical book will help and bless all who long to love God with all their hearts…but just aren’t sure why they don’t, if they could, or how it happens.

 

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Rev. Janice Strawn

Rev. Janice Strawn is a Certified Pastoral Member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling and an International Representative. She has been involved with the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling since 1997.

On March 7, 2013 I renewed my International Rep status at the request of Dr. David Migliore who is the founder and Dean of Students for Global Entrepreneur Institute. Dr. David and I had spent many hours dealing with his temperament needs and how to meet them to bring him through, what he has discovered through God’s revelation, the “Transformation Gap.” Through his own personal quest for victory in his own life, through his desire to learn how to walk in the Spirit, and in his quest to help the many godly men and women who were in leadership positions, be that as fathers, mothers, dentists, teachers, business men or women, community leaders, or ministers, yet who were ‘stuck’ in their own personal lives, put within him an unquenchable desire to be trained in Creation Therapy. That is the prompting that God used to get me to renew my IR status.

At this time I had no idea the doors God was waiting to open up for me to use this amazing tool to touch the world for Jesus. I had no idea that I would be touching lives all over the world, setting captives free as they discover who they are in Christ, how knowing themselves and how God uniquely created them, would help them to know others better, which made them greater communicators, taught them how to handle conflicts, and raised their value in the world by becoming problem solvers,

In 2009 I became a coach in GEI. I was assigned to a student for the institute for one year. We did one principle a week for 40 weeks, they were required to do 4 book reports in that year and one dissertation at the end of the 40 weeks to earn their GEI Personal Mastery Certificate. I have been a coach now for 5 years.

After coaching 23 students, one on one, I have received the Master Coaches Distinction in GEI. The need to train coaches rose up and that is where I am ministering today. God has helped me to develop a Basic Coach Training Manual. In the second lesson within the manual I introduce the coaches in training to the Arno Profile System. Each student takes the APS. Through this introduction the Arno Profile is going viral, so to speak through GEI. I am able to do this all online, and by phone. From my home God is allowing me to be a world changer into various cultures.

Since October of 2013 an interest has broken out with GEI in leaders now enrolling in the course of Creation Therapy. “The Refuge” a ministry in Columbus, Ohio for those fighting addictions, has become ignited with this program to use in their ministry of rehabilitating men from the lifestyle of drug addiction. They have acknowledged that this is what they have been looking for and praying about to close the backdoor for these men which will ultimately increase their success rate in rehabilitating these lives of these precious men. Putting godly men back into their communities and in leadership positions. Five of their leaders are now involved in training and soon will be establishing a class for these men in Created in God’s Image.

In February I will have the honor of taking this material into a local Dentist’s office to train their staff. This will strengthen their team, the homes and personal lives of their staff which will ultimately increase godly productivity, producing fruit, lasting fruit for the Kingdom of God.

Oh, by the way, I am 74 years old. I WAS retired, or so I thought. What was really going on in my short-lived retirement was that I was being re-fired for the best years of my life. What an awesome God we serve.

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Dr. Clarence Joyner

Dr. Clarence W. Joyner, Jr. is a Certified Pastoral member of the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling and an International Representative.  He has been involved with the SACC and the NCCA since 1988.

Creation Therapy has been an essential part of my life since I took the course in 1988. I could not understand why I was doing some of the things I was doing, why I associated myself with certain people, and why I liked certain colors more than others. I could go on and on about why this and why that, however; I became aware of my answers from taking and teaching Creation Therapy. I finally began to understand why my life as a husband, father, Pastor, and a teacher became more meaningful and spiritually-filled as compared to before I came into the knowledge of Creation Therapy.

On any given Sunday, millions of American individuals become captive audiences in a place of worship, be it large or small, for messages that can change their way of thinking and transform their lives. Since the church is made up of individuals from different households and different parts of the city, the church is considered a community within itself. The church becomes the most recognized, stable institution in the community. The church leaders’ voices are among the most influential voices in the community. It gives one the opportunity to disseminate information of hope and promote wholeness in the mind, body, and spirit for a spiritual perspective. This information is heard by several generations in a family and if applied correctly will make a positive impact on the lives of generations to come.

It appears that the world is hungry for new ways of improving their well-being, how to know God and have a better relationship with Him, and ways to understand themselves. Many individuals don’t understand why they do the things they do, nor understand why they are so quick to be reactive instead of proactive. They don’t know why they want to drive everyone else’s bus and not learn to respect the territories of others.

Creation Therapy is available at Broadway Baptist Church throughout the year in our seminary classes and on Sundays in my sermon deliverance and preparation. I realize that I am preparing and addressing five different types of temperaments every Sunday that God has given us: Melancholy, Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic, and Supine – which God gave as a revelation to the Arnos. Creation Therapy is also available throughout the U.S and some third world countries due to the authors, Dr. Richard and Dr. Phyllis Arno. It gives one an opportunity to learn his or her temperament. This tool will further enable one to learn strengths as well as weaknesses.

Since the church is made up of families from the community, it would be very beneficial for all family members to learn the traits that God gave them from when they were in their mother’s womb. As we come together as one body in Christ, positive changes will take place in the homes, the church, and in the community. Then we will be able to see the crime rate decrease, families talking things out before moving out, and children being more willing to be obedient to whomever is in charge of them instead of trying to take charge themselves.

I have experienced some delightful and inquisitive individuals who wanted to learn more about their temperament. From the pulpit, I talked about Psalm 193: “How wonderful God made us”, and Jeremiah 1:5 “God knew us before He formed us in our mother’s womb.” The members wanted to know more and I encouraged them to take Creation Therapy.  As I began to teach members of my congregation, the word began to spread in the community. I met a lot of people who did not understand why they behaved in the manner in which they did.

The Melancholy, if I could sum them up, would be clever and profound. Matthew 5:48 “Be therefore perfect, even as your Father which therefore is in Heaven is perfect.” I learned that most Melancholies want to be perfect and always right in their dealings in the church, home, and their jobs. They can easily accept and talk about their strength that God gave them but find it very difficult to accept and acknowledge their weaknesses.

When addressing the Cholerics, as there have been several assigned to my classes, which I found to be difficult because I am also a Choleric in Control, I was often challenged regarding my points of view. Even in my decision making concerning the church, I had to deal with Cholerics who were not using good judgment according to the word of God. At times we all want to take control of our homes, church, and those in our social environments. I emphasize to Cholerics in my congregation that making good choices according to the word of God is pleasing in God’s sight. I stress the importance that we must realize that God is the head of the church and not man. I further stress that with the help of the Holy Spirit, those operating with this temperament can accomplish great things.

When a student of mine learned that she was a Choleric in Control, she immediately said to me, “I need to go to the alter right now and repent. I knew I was controlling but not to the point that my controlling actions were having a negative effect on me and the people in my circle.” After hearing similar responses, I reminded students of the following scripture: 1 Corinthians 15: 10, “By the grace of God I am what I am: and His grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.”

In reference to the Sanguine temperaments in the class, their individual motto was “having fun” and they kept the class laughing. Even after working all day, they come to class full of energy and bright as the sunshine. They were the students who always wanted to stay overtime. Those just entering ministry for the first time would stop me after class to share their ideas for learning how to effectively evangelize to others in the community.

Phlegmatics on the other hand were always those in the class waiting and watching what others had to say. It appeared they enjoyed the possibility of others not knowing how to read the expressions on their faces. After understanding how the Phlegmatics functioned, especially in my congregation, I was able to overcome the non-expressions presented on their faces or whether or not they agreed with the message going forth. After experiencing personal time with them, I realized that they were well-rounded people. I would share the following scripture to encourage them: John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” I can truly see that the Phlegmatics are observers and they don’t “sweat it”. They have learned that it is Jesus Christ that provides the peace and security in their lives.

The last temperament that I have observed in my congregation is the Supine temperament. If I had to sum this temperament up, it would be, “A servant of God well done.” As we learned in Matthew 20:28, “Jesus came to serve and not be served.” As I now look over my congregation, I see that God has placed some wonderful Supines in the membership who are truly servants of God and not of man.

In conclusion, as I examined my congregational audience, I had the privilege of witnessing how the majority of the temperaments unite together to glorify God. They deny themselves as I continue to minister to them the word of God. After teaching Creation Therapy to my members and others, I want them to realize that despite what their temperament is, God can use it to strengthen each individual’s walk with the Lord.

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