Temperament Corner

Wings

PSALM 91 (KJV)

1. He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

2. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.

3. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

4. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.  

5. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day;

6. Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

7. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.

8. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.

9. Because thou has made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;

10. There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling.

11. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

12. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

13. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.

14. Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

15. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.

16. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.

FEAR

FEAR IS A BIG BULLY AND PREYS ON ALL OF THE TEMPERAMENTS!

Fear can keep us locked up in a prison of darkness. But YOU have the key to get out of this prison of darkness. The key is Jesus!

We need to trust that Jesus will get rid of the bully.

How? Jesus is the Light of the World, and the darkness has to run from Him. And

Jesus always keeps His Word.

For example, take a flashlight and shine the light in a dark place and see what happens—the darkness disappears!

The same thing will happen with our fears because Jesus is our Light—our fears will disappear!

The Holy Scriptures tell us:

“Fear not.” It is in our Bible over 70 times and tells us that God is always here for us; however, sometimes, when we are going through the valleys, we tend to let fear creep in and take over.

Encouraging Scriptures regarding fear:

Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

Joshua 1:5: “I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”

Psalm 23:4, 5: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.”

Psalm 27:1: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?”

Psalm 56:11: “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.”

Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

Dr. Phyllis Arno

II Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

I John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”

LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS IN THE INCLUSION AREA OF THE SUPINE AND SHINE THE LIGHT OF JESUS ON THEM.

In review, Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface relationships.  (This includes association and socialization.) It also encompasses a person’s intellectual energies.

1.  PERCEIVED FEAR OF SOCIAL REJECTION

Supines in Inclusion tend to want and need to be included; however, their perceived fear of rejection keeps them from initiating. They will wait for personal invitations so that they can feel genuinely accepted and wanted.  If they do not receive a personal invitation, they will tend to feel they have no value and that they are unwanted.

Supines in Inclusion may find ways to receive a personal invitation to social events by doing special things, such as making delicious cakes, pies, and salads that nobody else would take the time to make, teaching Sunday school, singing in the choir, assisting in the nursery, operating the sound systems, creating and donating beautiful floral arrangements, driving church buses or vans, etc.  Supines in Inclusion have a servant’s heart and will rarely turn down an opportunity to serve others.

Supines in Inclusion need to learn that people cannot read their mind and know that they want to be included; therefore, they need to learn to initiate and express their wants and needs.

Supines in Inclusion also need to learn that God created them and that He tells them in the Holy Scriptures not to fear people, for He is always with them.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their perceived fears of social rejection so that they can comfortably interact and fellowship with God’s people.

Deuteronomy 31:8 tells us: “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.  Do not be afraid; do not be See Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with the: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”discouraged.” (NIV).

2.  FEAR OF BEING IMPERFECT 

Supines in Inclusion tend to have a difficult time accepting compliments from others because they can only see their flaws.  For example, if someone told them that they look great, they might say: “Thank you, but this outfit is old,” or “I need my hair cut,” or “My shoes need to be polished,” etc

Because of this fear of being imperfect, they tend to believe that they can never measure up to other people’s standards.  They tend to feel that people are observing them and can see all their imperfections.

Supines in Inclusion need to know in their heart that God created them in His image and that they do not need to feel that they are inferior to others. They need to learn that nobody is perfect and that we are all works in progress.  God does the perfecting as we submit to Him.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of imperfection.  The key for them is to know their standing with God, and that He will do the perfecting as they submit to Him.

Hebrews 13:20-21: “Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well-pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”

3. FEAR OF CALLING “HURT FEELINGS” ANGER 

Supines in Inclusion tend to fear admitting that their hurt feelings are internalized anger; therefore, rather than call their anger, “anger,” they tend to call it “hurt feelings.” This is because, to them, saying “My feelings are hurt” is less offensive than saying “I am angry.” Even though they are angry at someone, they do not want to offend them.    

Supines in Inclusion need to learn to recognize and deal with their internalized anger.  They need to learn to say, “I am angry because….” In other words, they need to pull up this anger and submit it to God so they can be free of it.

If the Supine in Inclusion does not recognize their internalized anger and submit it to God, they will tend to dwell on this anger and become angrier.  As they do so, this internalized anger builds or grows inside of them—it consumes them, and they tend to lose their gentle spirit and servant’s heart; therefore, they need to deal with this internalized anger and submit it to the Lord.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of calling their “hurt feelings” anger and submit this anger to Him so they do not stifle their gentle spirit and servant’s heart.

Ephesians 4:31: “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice.”

4.  FEAR OF DEATH AND DYING

Supines in Inclusion tend to fear death and dying because they tend to feel that they have never done enough to deserve going to Heaven. They will tend to “work themselves to death” for others and still feel that they are unworthy.

Supines in Inclusion may also fear the death and dying of a friend because they may feel this is rejection and a personal loss when a friend dies.  At times, they may even fear that they are responsible for a friend’s death because of something they may have said, done, or thought. This is a Supine tendency to feel responsible for everything that happens.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of death and dying and learn to place their trust in God because He will keep His word.  They also need to learn that they are not responsible for someone’s death because of something they may have said, done or thought.

Isaiah 25:8:  “He will swallow up death in victory; and the Lord God will wipe away tears from off all faces….”

CONCLUSION

Supines in Inclusion need to shine the light of Jesus on their fears and learn that:

1. God wants them to know that He is always with them and He will never leave or forsake them.  This means that they do not have to perceive rejection from people.

2. God wants them to know that He knows that we are not perfect; we are all works in progress. He also wants them to know that He will do the perfecting in their lives as they yield to Him.

3.  God wants them to recognize that their “hurt feelings” are actually internalized anger. He wants them to pull out these “hurt feelings”— internalized anger— and yield this anger to Him so that they can be set free and so they do not lose their gentle spirit and servant’s heart.

4.  God wants them to trust in Him and not fear death and dying, as He is directing their steps and will call them home when He determines their work on earth is completed.  He also wants them to learn that they are not responsible for the death of others because of something they may have said, done, or thought.

PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Phlegmatics in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.

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