Temperament Corner

Psalm 91

Wings
  1. He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
  2. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
  3. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.
  4. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.
  5. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day;
  6. Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.
  7. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.
  8. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.
  9. Because thou has made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;
  10. There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling.
  11. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.
  12. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.
  13. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.
  14. Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.
  15. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.
  16. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.

Fear

Dr. Phyllis J. Arno
Dr. Phyllis J. Arno

FEAR IS A BIG BULLY AND PREYS ON ALL OF THE TEMPERAMENTS! Fear can keep us locked up in a prison of darkness. But YOU have the key to get out of this prison of darkness. The key is Jesus!

We need to trust that Jesus will get rid of the bully.

How? Jesus is the Light of the World, and the darkness has to run from Him. And Jesus always keeps His Word.

For example, take a flashlight and shine the light in a dark place and see what happens—the darkness disappears!

The same thing will happen with our fears because Jesus is our Light—our fears will disappear!

The Holy Scriptures tell us”

“Fear not.” It is in our Bible over 70 times and tells us that God is always here for us; however, sometimes, when we are going through the valleys, we tend to let fear creep in and take over.

Encouraging Scriptures regarding fear:

Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

Joshua 1:5: “I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”

Psalm 23:4, 5: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.”

Psalm 27:1: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?”

Psalm 56:11: “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.”

Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

II Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

I John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”

LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS IN THE INCLUSION AREA OF THE CHOLERIC AND SHINE THE LIGHT OF JESUS ON THEM.

In review, Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface relationships. (This includes association and socialization.) It also encompasses a person’s intellectual energies.

1. FEAR OF BEING EXPOSED

Cholerics in Inclusion tend to be afraid that people will find out who they really are. This is because they wear many “masks” or “hats.” They can become whomever it takes to accomplish their goals. Sometimes they do not even know “who” they are! They can be sweet and charming, cold, calculating and aloof, or just neutral—whatever it takes. Some Cholerics in Inclusion may even call themselves “The Great Pretender.” There was a song popular back in the 50’s called The Great Pretender, “pretending to be what I’m not, you see…..”

Their fear of being exposed and of others finding out who they really are is a driving force that can lead them to burnout.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears, and let Him expose the masks that they are wearing, as well as their negative thoughts about themselves.

Philippians 4:8 tells us: “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

2. FEAR OF SAYING NO WHEN ASKED TO ORGANIZE SOCIAL EVENTS

Cholerics in Inclusion tend to be afraid to say no because they want and need the recognition and approval from those around them.

The need for recognition and approval is a driving force and can lead to burnout.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of not receiving enough recognition and approval from those around them. God will give them all the recognition and approval they will ever need.

Matthew 25:21 tells us: “His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant…”

3. FEAR OF NOT BEING ABLE TO LIVE UP TO THEIR OWN STANDARDS OF PERFECTION

Cholerics in Inclusion are very hard on themselves, setting standards that even they can’t meet; then, because of their need for perfection, they will fear that they can’t measure up to their own standards and will tend to strive or push themselves to do better.

The fear of not being able to live up to their own standards of perfection can lead to burnout.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of meeting their need for perfection. God only requires reasonable service. They need to learn that as they submit to God, He will do the perfecting.

Hebrews 13:20-21: “Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well-pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”

See also II Samuel 22:33: “God is my strength and power: and he maketh my way perfect.”

4. FEAR OF OTHERS NOT LIVING UP TO THEIR STANDARDS OF PERFECTION

Cholerics in Inclusion tend to fear delegating to others because they are afraid that they will not live up to their standards of perfection. If the others do not meet their standards of perfection, then the Choleric in Inclusion will tend to take over and cause themselves undue stress, all because they need to receive recognition and approval rather than criticism.

The fear of delegating responsibilities to others that may not live up to their standards of perfection can lead to burnout.

They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of delegating to others and learn to allow others to be imperfect. God will do the perfecting in others as well as in themselves.

Proverbs 16:3: “Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.”

See also Hebrews 7:19: “For the law made nothing perfect, but the bringing in of a better hope did; by the which we draw nigh unto God.”

CONCLUSION

Cholerics in Inclusion need to learn that:

  1. God knows them and will reveal to them how to take off their “masks” and
    “hats” and truly serve Him.
  2. God will give them all the recognition and approval they will ever need.
  3. God only requires reasonable service.
  4. God will do the perfecting of others as well as themselves.
  5. God wants us to do our best, He knows that we are not perfect, but that we are all works in progress.

PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Choleric in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order.

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